sunshinejaye

Last Mother's Day my husband and 4 year old daughter took me out to a nice restaurant where we had a great meal. I returned home, called my own mother to wish her a happy Mother's Day. I had just visited her the day before and she made no mention of any plans, or the possibilty of us all getting together to meet the next day. I asked my brother what he was doing and he said he was working so I figured nothing was happening. So when I called my mother I was light and breezy on her voicemail, saying I would be home if she wanted to call me back. She didn't. I did get a call from my father-my parents are divorced-who said I should call my grandmother as she was not doing well. I hadn't spoken to my grandmother in years due to some inter-family issues, so calling her was pretty emotional. It would be the last time I spoke to her. She passed away last July of cancer. Back to my mother, it was a week before I got a call from her and she screamed at me for not celebrating HER day, how she cried watching other grandchildren show up at her neighbor's house with flowers and how could I be so creul..etc.. I explained what happened with my grandmother and my mother's response was quite cold, saying she didn't understand why I was so upset since I hadn't spoken to my grandmother in so long.

So, flash forward and here we are, a few days from Mother's Day. I told my mother I was competing in a race the day before Mother's Day. Her response? I still expect you to celebrate mother's day..meaning-celbrate HER Mother's Day. The thing is, the whole day now seems kind of traumatic, causing my own mother so much heartache and then that day being the anniversary of the last time I spoke with my grandmother, it just doesn't feel like it's a Mother's Day for me anymore. I know if I told this to my mother she'd be back on the-Oh I don't know why you're so upset about your grandmother bit. What really ticks me off though is that my brother wasn't spoken to about missing Mother's Day last year and this year my Mother's boyfriend won't even be in town-but I am expected to book a restuarant and get flowers and drag my butt out of the house the day after running 50k to celebrate my mom because to her, it's not my Mother's day it's her Mother's day. Why can't it be our Mother's Day? I just want to forget the day altogether at this point, but I'll go through the motions to keep her happy.

I had some thin skin excised back on Dec 20 2011. The skin excised is in the inside of my elbow. After the sutures were removed the center of the wound has opened and gotten wider. It is exposing the fatty tissue and looks to be getting wider. Aside from some burning pain in the area affected there are no other symptoms. I would like this re-sutured but read some doctors may be reluctant to do this. I work around aircraft so I'm very concerned about possible infection. What do you think my chances are of getting this thing re-sutured? Either side of the wound has healed nicely. The wound is very unsightly and I can't stand to look at it.

I had plastic surgery to remove thin skin caused by steroid creams. The middle part of the incision has opened up. The doctor saw this when I went to get the stitches removed and said it's not a problem. So, the stitches were removed and I was told to rub cream on the whole wound to increase circulation and promote healing. So I have been apply cream but when I rub over the area that is open I can feel the small stitches that they put to close the inner layer of skin. Should I just put some steri-strips over this or should I see the doctor and see if he'll throw some more stitches in this part? The open wound has some light yellowish goo in it, but it doesn't smell, so I'm not sure if its actually infected or if it's trying to heal.

The pain on the top of my foot started about a month ago. I would go out for a run and have a dull pain after I finished. Then the pain started to stick around after a run for the rest of the day. Then last week I went for a run and the pain hasn't stopped since. Now my foot hurts constantly and last night, while walking around barefoot in the house I noticed my foot cracking (loudly), causing pain where the ache used to be. My doctor thinks it could be a stress fracture but it could also be a neuroma. This cracking has me thinking it might be a stress fracture-but I hate waiting for hours to get an xray, and I've read they don't always show a stress fracture anyhow. What does this sound like to you? Thanks!

The pain on the top of my foot started about a month ago. I would go out for a run and have a dull pain after I finished. Then the pain started to stick around after a run for the rest of the day. Then last week I went for a run and the pain hasn't stopped since. Now my foot hurts constantly and last night, while walking around barefoot in the house I noticed my foot cracking (loudly), causing pain where the ache used to be. My doctor thinks it could be a stress fracture but it could also be a neuroma. This cracking has me thinking it might be a stress fracture-but I hate waiting for hours to get an xray, and I've read they don't always show a stress fracture anyhow. What does this sound like to you? Thanks!

My sister in law moved in to her parents (my in-laws) place this past summer as she had just moved back from the US and is waiting for her husband to get permission to enter the country (but that's another story). Anyhow she's here with the two children (aged 1 and 5). She recently got a job but the hours are horrible (but is all she can get). She works most evenings so she only sees her 5 year old for 1 hour a day. She sends the kids to a friend's place for the duration of her shift since this friend has three kids of her own and enjoys watching the kids. My inlaws are now telling my sister in law they want to take care of the kids, but only if my sister inlaw will pay them what she pays her friend. I think this is disgusting, but my sister in law didn't want to cause an issue so she tried it and found her father hadn't fed her 1 year old when she returned home and he basically ignores the 5 year old. My mother in law isn't around, she is the only income provider for the house, but will do things like leave a hot clothing iron on for 24 hours straight! I think they are being incedibly manipulative and I want to tell her to keep the kids going to her friend's place so they will be fed, safe and watched, but she's in such a hard spot right now. Does anyone have any adivce?

I'm going to an office Christmas party next week and I plan to wear a 3/4 sleeve red shirt, black skirt and black open toe pumps. Would painting my toenails red to match the shirt be considered tacky?

I fell while running 6 weeks ago. I had a large egg on top of my kneecap after the fall. Xrays showed nothing wrong, aside from a bone bruise on the kneecap. It took 4 weeks for the swelling to go down.

I was stretching last night and felt a horizontal line across the center of my kneecap, exactly where the "egg" had been. The other knee feels smooth in the same area. I have had pain in the knee since touching the area last night. Now I'm wondering-what the heck? I had xrays taken, shouldn't that have shown if there was a fracture? Or could I have damaged some soft tissue over the kneecap? I don't want to go back to the doctor if it's really nothing, but at the same time I don't want to be training for a half marathon on a kneecap that's got something wrong, maybe further damaging it. Should I ask for an MRI-would that tell me if I did anything to it?

I'm so tired of waiting for x ray results. I fell, smashed my knee and now I don't know if it's broken, sprained or what. I am in constant pain, have trouble walking, the knee is swollen and misshapen and I'm sick and tired of waiting for x ray results on something that should be so simple to identify. Here's my knee:

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I'll take any guesses. Thanks!!

I was out running, not paying attention when I fell. That was 5 days ago and the swelling on my left kneecap is still there. The top of the kneecap is numb too. My doctor thinks its either a cracked knee cap or a very badly bruised kneecap. I've had x-rays done but I'm waiting for the results-now its been 2 days. Can I assume its a bruise and go back to running? They would have called already if it was really broken-right?

I was out running, not paying attention when I fell. That was 5 days ago and the swelling on my left kneecap is still there. The top of the kneecap is numb too. My doctor thinks its either a cracked knee cap or a very badly bruised kneecap. I've had x-rays done but I'm waiting for the results-now its been 2 days. Can I assume its a bruise and go back to running? They would have called already if it was really broken-right?

It was dark and I was thinking about work and then I tripped. I fell mostly on my left knee and left elbow. My knee developed a large egg on top of the kneecap almost immediately. I've been resting it and applying ice. The swelling has gone down, but I'm curious if I might have cracked it? The other knee has a decent 6 inch road rash scrape but that's it.

My sister in-law is living with her parents (my in-laws) who are both in their 60s, along with her 2 toddlers. Her husband is in the US awaiting the government's decision if he can be permitted entrance to our country. My husband, our daughter and I went to visit them over the long weekend and it was a never-ending battle between her 4 year old (girl) and my 3 year old daughter. The 4 year old would threaten, scream and hit my child for the simplest thing, like my daughter playing with a toy that she wanted, or taking turns on a swing. My sister in-law would simply take her daughter to her room, yell at her, then let her right back out-while she's still screaming and crying. I will take my child to her bedroom, yell at her, and give her a time out until she calms down. If she doesn't calm down she stays in her room. My daughter goes to daycare and plays with the other kids in our neighbourhood (same age, some younger, some older) and has never had anything like this happen. At one point my husband was watching the girls and my niece hit my daughter so hard it left a big red mark on her arm. What was my sister in-law's response? She asked my daughter what SHE did to make her daughter do that. OMG! My tongue nearly bled from all the biting I had to do. My husband said he was shocked at her reaction and it was unacceptable-but he hasn't said anything to to his sister. This is just one example. Then my sister in-law invites herself to our home at the end of the month and even had the gaul to tell her daughter (loudly, in front of my husband's whole family) she can play with all of my child's toys when she gets there and we'll see how my daughter deals. OMG!! I dread having them at my home. I will tell my husband that any more physical assaults on my daughter and I will not stand for it. Why should I accept my child being hit? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Her parents are frustrated and try to step in but they get yelled at by my sister in law for even trying to discipline her child.

I just don't get it. Does it make you run faster or something? The two I saw today spent most of their time digging their "shorts"/underwear out of their butt cracks. Is it rude to point out most runners don't run in their underwear (unless they're an elite runner, then they can run in whatever they want). It's going to take all night to get the visions of celluite-ridden legs out of my mind...ugh..shudder.

I love the work I do. I like the people I work with. The problem is that I haven't had a performance review in 2 years and although I've been given more responsibility I haven't been given either the job title or the salary that people in this position usually have. I manage people but I have the same job title as the people I manage. That would probably be alright with me if I was getting paid for the extra work I do, but I don't. My last boss told me in June of this year I was ready to be promoted but he has since left the company. In fact, three people in the last 4 months have left and they have all recommended me for promotion. But still nothing. I don't even have a supervisor anymore so I don't know who, besides the VP of the company to speak with and he's only been on the job for 3 weeks! Help! Should I just bail for a better paying job or stick it out in hope that someday someone might realize what I've been doing?

My husband and I have our 7 year anniversary coming up. To celebrate he suggested we both take the day off work and spend it together. Now he asked me this the day before we had a fight about having another child where he said "I expect you to be pregnant in a year." Now I'm so hurt and angry at him for pushing this ultimatum on me (I'm not ready for a second child, my 2 year old IS ENOUGH right now. I finally lost 70 pounds and the idea of puking for 6 months and labour seems like TORTURE-which I told him.) I don't want to be near him, much less take a day off with him. I had to push myself to have relations with him this morning (because it's what I'm expected to do as a wife). So, should I make up some excuse so I don't have to spend more free time with him than I need to, or should I take the day and push myself through that even though I feel resentful and trapped by his ultimatum?

Last week I bought new clothes as a present for myself since I've lost 70 pounds after having our daughter. My husband and I had the best sex we've had in a year on saturday. That night he spoke with his sister (who's a bit manipulative) and I have no doubt she mentioned that when she and I spoke I expressed my feelings about not wanting another child. On Sunday we had a fight over having/not having another child. It's like the balloon that had my passion has been popped. I feel like he sees me as only good for producing children. He says not having another child would be a "deal breaker" for him. For me I don't want another child right now, maybe not ever. I'm happy with how things are in our life. So obviously another child is out of the picture right now, but how do I get over my resentment of him pressuring me by threatening divorce if I don't "produce" (no pun intended)?

When my husband and I were dating we discussed children. I said one or two children, he said two or three. Now we've been married for 7 years and have a beautiful 2 year old daughter. I hated being pregnant. I was sick for about 6 months and after the delievery of my child I underwent an emergency procedure to remove the placenta. I've been tramatized by this ordeal. I don't want to get pregnant again and I don't want the extra (everything) that another child would bring. And I say that in the present-tense. I don't know, maybe in a few years I'll feel differently, but I don't want another child right now or in a year from now. My husband and I had a fight a few nights ago about this, he said he "expects" me to be pregnant in a year. It has me totally freaked out. I'm enjoying my life, my family and my career-why would I want to mess with that? I'm afraid my husband will leave me if I don't "produce" another child for him. His sister has two children (both unplanned) and she and he were speaking a day before our fight. She is a bit of a manipulator and she and I had a talk where I said I'm happy with one child for now. I'm pretty sure she told him this the other night. He said he's concerned I won't want another child ever. Maybe I won't.

I've been dealing with the whole "expectations of a woman" thing. Why should I have to have a child (much less two)? Because I can? For me that's not enough of a reason. Just because "it's what my husband has always wanted," isn't good enough reason to create another life either. I feel like all the passion has left me after our fight. I'm finally at a weight I'm happy with and he wants me fat and prgnant again. I feel trapped and I'm worried what will happen to us. Why isn't our little family of three good enough for him?

I have my office x-mas party tomorrow night. A few weeks ago we were asked if we were bringing out spouses to the dinner. At that time I asked if they were permitted as I knew the office party fund was tight. I was told yes and assumed my husband wouldn't have to pay. Yesterday I found out he does in fact have to pay and it's not cheap either, $40.00. We just can't afford that and a babysitter for the evening so I just don't want to go anymore. How can I not show up without being the talk of the office?

I am in my mid-30s and enjoy first person shooting, rpg, and racing games. I want to buy one of these two systems but can't make up my mind if the Platstation 3's extra cost is worth it, or if the Xbox 360 is almost as good or is as good as the Playstation3.

Thanks for your help!