Advice is for others, never for yourself.?

Yes because people tend to get so overwhelmed by the complexity of the situation that they don't have that same clear thinking as they have when they talk to others about THEIR problems. When we are going through problems ourselves, we are forced to think about the "What ifs" and potential repercussions that might occur because only we are responsible for the after effects if the decision we made is a bad one.

What you state , it would appear so.

However , it is nice to go back, analyse and find out why we do so. Let me do a loud thinking.

Do you advice on anything that you donot know? No. You don`t. Do you tend to advice on anything that is vague , uncertain, unclear ? You do. why? Most advices are reflections of one`s own experiences in certain situations, where one may have succeeded or failed. Sharing such an outcome , in a similar situation by the others , would look to be an advice . "my advice is that you should not go now" would really mean the collective experiences of a few that took the option failed. That is all.

The people who are seeking advice have also something to do with the response. If I were to give advice to my close friend I would be more careful , more objective as I have a lot to lose .

On the other hand , if I were to advice some aquaintance, I become a little more subjective .

Finally , when it comes to one`s own situation it is not different either . Same procedure .

Yes it's so keen to giving advices, but when I find myself in the some rut (my life problems) I think that I apply the advices of my own problems which can be helpful for others. Everyone has more or less the some problems with his own life.

yes.

Truth is hard to face. Most of the times there is some pain involved in the truth.

It is easy to see things from outside and give out advices easily to third parties.

However, when we are the ones that have to face things, we run away, because accepting that we need advice and that we have to take requires maturity, responsibility and a humble heart, and even then it is hard to take desitions that will affect your life somehow significantly or that will require some sacrifice from your side, whatever kind of sacrifice we are talking about, like accepting to change oneself, being abetter person, etc.

You have to take the desition to change for real. not just cheat on yourself.

yes hence the saying "easier said than done" i am like a councilor to all of my friends giving them advice not to call their cheating ex but when its me that is in the situation i dont listen to advice, i always think that what i want to do is right. its always the same. there are very few people i know who use the same advice they offer. those people are strong and do what they know is right not what they want to do

I completely agree.

I am currently in a very complicated situation and the advice I would give anyone else in this situation is very different then the path I chose to take.

hmmmm u got a point there.. but for me advice is only an idea given by other people who cares to help things out and it's up to you if you are going to apply it or not...

When another person has a problem, you can consider it with total detachment. You can therefore be calm and logical, with no emotion playing any part in your deliberation. Not so, when you are directly involved.

That is a pretty common phenomenon; thus the old admonition:

"Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye."

Even thou I am not a believer, that is still an excellent observation on human behaviour.