Any counsellors or lawyers out there?

Question

A month ago I posted a question about my wife leaving our relationship. She'd taken off just like that. She came back, not to stay but to take our little guy with her to her appartment. I told her no because I thought she'll confuse him. For the fact that she doesn't want me to tell my son that mommy left. She wanted me to tell him that she's at work. Same through with all our friends. I am becoming a liar for covering for her. I told her that she's stronger because she's the one who left, that if she takes my son with her, I might break down and lost it. My son is the only one now that's giving me strength plus my little faith in God to go on living. Now, the question is, "am I right in denying her for taking our son with her"? Thank you people for words of wisdom.

Update:

She have a full time and I have a stable job but it's not full time (some hour shy to full time), and my little guy is 3and 7 months old last Christmas day.

Update 2:

She'd taken my little guy so I'm by myself right now (eating my supper while tears flowing out and mixing to my food). She said she'll bring him back. I hope so. I don't know what's next. I'm totally lost.

Chloe · Accepted Answer

Do you have a job?  Does she?  How old is the boy?  Most courts award the child to the mother.  You have her for desertion if you tell the truth.  Stop enabling her.

Anonymous · Answer

I am a counselor and you need a lawyer.  In a divorce your wife will most likely get custody.  But this whole thing is very unhealthy for all three of you.  It is important to bring a dignified closure to the marriage and stability in visitation and custody for your son.  stop lying for her.  That is called enabling.  You may be  codependent.  That is she is addicted to something and you are addicted to helping her.

THE TRUTH · Answer

Ouch..been there man....first off..don't cover for her....Take care of yourself.....Call a lawyer before she gets a hold of one and nails you with an order of protection to stay away from the child..Unfortunately that what some women do in order to take a child with them...SO call a lawyer let him/her know whats going on and how you want to keep the child with you. You also mentioned she was stronger for leaving? that's strange because I thought it took a stronger person to stick with there vows....You have a long hard road ahead of you my friend..but you will survive...you will win....God Bless

Natalia · Answer

I don't think you are wrong. You love your son, and any loving father would want to keep their son with them. The  best advice would be to go talk to a divorce lawyer. It's the best way to figure out custody, and once you have custody set in stone, your son won't be tossed around and confused, he will have a set schedule of who he's staying with, and when he's visiting who. So, if not for yourself, talk to a lawyer for your son. =)

Any counsellors or lawyers out there?

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