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So, my grandmother passed away today, and we live - sorry, lived - in the same house. And, she was my favorite grandparent - and the only one i had left; she's my mothers mother. 

When i heard the news i burst out into tears for about an hour. Then i cried some more. When i was going downstairs to see if anyone was there, i passed by her living room, and couldn't control myself. I burst out into tears. I wiped them away before my mom could see them. And then some one came and they said "I'm sorry" and i started crying again.

Then when it started to be okay i *accidentally* went passed her room, and where she sat everyday and i started remembering things and, again started crying.

Could it be because i wanted to see her yesterday (because she was at the hospital) but couldn't? So is it because i feel guilty for not going. Last time i saw her was almost a week ago. My question is, how do i keep myself away from having these emotional breakdowns?

I don't want to bother my mom, she's been through too much already (it's her mom, and all).

Thanks in advance.

Kyumin! &lt;3 · Accepted Answer

sounds like you're going through a tough time. don't worry. you're not alone.

i suggest that you stop being sad about the situation and be positive about it. your grandmother passed away and now, she's with God. that's a good thing, right? and she's probably looking after you and your family right now. just pray and you won't feel sad anymore.

hope my advice helped. :)

Nick R · Answer

It is so important for you to realize that what you are currently experiencing is not an "emotional breakdown", but rather, Grief.

Your feeling of grief over your dearly cherished grandmother's passing is perfectly appropriate right now, and will be for some time to come - although the feeling (and hence, the physical/physiological response) will lessen, as is to be expected.

Please don't be too hard on yourself.  Allow yourself the time to grieve.  It is expected.  It is universal.  It is completely normal for the circumstance.

Understand that every one of us (who is a fully-functional member of society) would feel the same grief that you are feeling now.

Your capacity to feel the emotion of grief in this circumstance is an excellent indication that your mental/emotional/psychological health is quite good - and you should have no reason to worry, fear or feel guilty.

Instead, allow yourself the time to process the feeling of grief - and it is a process that will take a little time.  As time passes, the feelings of sadness and loss will be slowly replaced by feelings of fondness, of happiness (recalling memories, special moments, unique qualities of your dear grandmother), and of peace in knowing that - just as her passing is - your feelings right now are a perfectly predictable aspect of life.

I need some help [look at description]?

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