My brother is obsessed with hitting/touching me?

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He's 13, I'm 16. He likes pinching me, tickling me, picking me up, sits extremely close to me. he's just very touchy with me. I always have to tell him to quit touching me. 
But when we fight, he'll hit me, so I'll hit him back. Then he'll get so aggressive and really try to hurt me. 
He slams me into walls and shoves me so hard that I lose balance and fall. 
He's significantly bigger than me, since he's overweight and he's a bit taller than me too, so When I hit him, it doesn't really hurt, it just makes him mad and then he'll hit me and it hurts a lot. My skin gets red from where he slaps me, and I sometimes get bruises. 
He gets so violent and I honestly get afraid when he advances on me. Because when I scream stop he doesn't listen and hits me. 
He's obsessed with getting "the last hit" even if he hit me first. 
And it pisses me off so much I want to cry and beat him up but I can't do anything. 
I try telling my dad but all he says is 
"Hit him harder" and I can't hit any harder and my dad doesn't do anything. 
I get so frustrated and upset and I don't know what to do. 
We've been to family counseling before years ago but nothing has worked.

rytex · Accepted Answer

Find someone you can talk to in your family who can step in and talk with your brother and father. If it continues talk with your dad and let him know yours serious. If worst comes to the worst tell your dad you want to stay with someone else for a while. Hopefully it won't come to that

Serene E · Answer

You need to get the hell away form him, every single day, dear. Don't let him near you, don't let him hit you.  If you have to stay in your room until he moves away, then that's what you  have to do.  
But going toe to toe with a boy 3 years older will not work.  He's bigger and stronger and as you say, he has to get the last hit in  - you are going to seriously get hurt if you continue..
Your dad is.....I have no idea what he is when he won't defend his own daughter from getting abused by her brother!!   I can't imagine why he thinks this is OK.   This is abusive from your brother.

? · Answer

Your dad should do something.  Do you have someone else you can live with?  He's no a good father, imo.

? · Answer

Call him fat. Make him feel bad about his body. Words can do way more damage than physical violence.

Ford_Craney · Answer

Talk to your parents, if that does no good, call 911 and have him arrested until he learns to respect your boundaries.

My brother is obsessed with hitting/touching me?

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