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Bf of two years dumped me without even talking about it?
My boyfriend and I work together.For the past 4 months I was helping my boyfriend even though we don’t live together. He hit a tough spot with his bills and I’ve been tying to help him as much as I can.
I gave him money for the light bill and water bill in April. I gave him gas money a few times too. But 2 months ago my boyfriend had received his hospital bill in the mail for being sick and he told me they were going to start to garnish his check because he couldn’t afford the payments.
So i started working overtime at work to help him get his debt down. He asked me to take out a loan for him but it didn’t get approved so I started working more hours to try and make up for the lack of income.
My friend asked me why was I working so much lately and I told my best friend at work that a i was helping my boyfriend with the bills until my birthday came. I told her he doesn’t have the motivation to work OT so I’m just trying to help him until he gets hisself sorted out. And i told her i didn’t want him borrowing money from other people so i rather look out for him
She went back and told my boyfriend what I said and he dumped me ghosted me and I’m not sure what I did.
5 Answers
- 2 years ago
Yes. He was probably fine with only you knowing you were supporting him but when someone else found out...you don't really know in what context your "friend" relayed what you said about working so much overtime. In my experience, most men do not like their relationship talked about especially by the other half. Even the good ones. The unmotivated comment is what got to him though. If you honestly felt that he was unmotivated, did you talk with him about it before telling someone else?
- Anonymous2 years ago
You are so much better off without this loser. Just move on and forget you ever knew him.
- Anonymous2 years ago
Your first mistake was getting romantically involved with a workmate, your second mistake was lending and/or giving him cash. The only person that can tell you for certain is him but I suspect it is because you told your workmates that you were giving him money.
The two of you are going to have to sort this out quickly or work is going to be very awkward for everyone concerned. If I were you I'd end the relationship permanently and never ever give or lend him another penny. No matter how much he begs or pleads.
- The PupaLv 62 years ago
You told your friend and exposed him for what he is... a free loader. His pride probably took a hit. Forget him, a guy like that will take and take and take. Lesson learned though, never give a friend or boyfriend money.
