If you were a man of honor such as a SR 71 or Harrier Pilot?

Navy Seal, or of similar character somehow prevented from joining, would you respect someone threatening to prevent you from talking to the woman you WANT, burning your nuts, death threats or similar means of coercion. Like say you thought you were trying to save peoples lives several times throughout your existence and/or make people happy above your own immediate gratification? And would you respect a man trying to get in better with his woman you want by opportunistically capitalizing off of your existence and everything you have worked on? I don't specifically mean time clock work.