Is getting married when you are poor a bad idea?

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When you are poor it is not a good idea to get married and have children because then your children will be born into poverty and struggle to survive. When you are single and don't have any children it is easier for you to live, you can save alot of money and get yourself out of poverty. When you are poor, are married and have children you and your children will continue living in poverty, have you seen the starving African children? Those children are born to suffer because they are born into poverty. There are alot of people who struggle to survive because they are poor. We live in a world where it is impossible to survive without money. If you try to get something without money including food and medicine it will not be given to you. They will let you starve. There are people who end up homeless with their children. When people lose their jobs they end up homeless with their children. You can never get yourself out of poverty when you are married. It is hard to get yourself out of poverty when you are married. When you get married you become a slave who works just to pay bills and support a family all your life then you get old and die. Since people are children they are taught that they have to get a girlfriend, get married and have children but that is wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

So pay people more. Americans used to be mostly well-off. Reagan started making the majority poor and later administratins have continued the stupidity.

RoVale · Answer

If that's the case, then there's no worry about marrying for money.

pit bulls bite · Answer

and if you are rich too

? · Answer

No.  What? you want to exterminate the poor?

Foofa · Answer

If you marry the right person it doubles your household income immediately. Then there are two incomes to save and invest in the hopes of being able to afford children in the future. But yeah, kids are expensive and what it really takes to raise them should be taught in high school health classes.

? · Answer

You are reacting to a close up look at someone's life (maybe your own or someone else's,) and I hear the frustration in your words. I have deep sympathy for how you feel right now, and I'm not answering to argue with you but to expose you to the idea that there can be hope.

Mine is a different point of view than yours. Marraige is a kind of partnership. And if two partners are both in agreement about saving money and getting out of poverty, then having two people can make it easier than having one. If there are children, they can take turns covering parenting duties so one person isn't the one having to miss work for the children's needs 100% of the time. If there are no children yet, there are two potential earners, so you double your chances of at least one having a job at any time, and the goal should be for both to earn and save up an emergency fund.

From a purely financial point of view, a partner you can trust lightens the financial load. But you have to choose carefully. An addict or a person too childish to resist spending the rent money on a fancy hairstyle or new clothes and TV, that kind of partner makes life harder, not easier.

Is getting married when you are poor a bad idea?

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