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Anonymous asked in Pregnancy & ParentingParenting · 2 weeks ago

Should I feel bad about babysitting?

I'm a retired 65 year old woman.My daughter and my son in law have been having me watch their 6 year old child everyday for a year since Covid hit.So since Mar.2020.But I can't help to think their starting to take advantage of me.It seems I'm their main person to call even when they wanna go out at night even.It was just suppose to be in the day time 4 times a week from 2-6.But now it's everyday even for 1 of their date nights.Also they just assume I'll watch their child whenever.They are moving to a new place soon and when my daughter was talking to me about their moving day plans they said, "We're gonna start about 8 AM and I'm gonna I drop (Name) off at your house." They even had an unexpected thing last night where my son got called into work and my daughter was sleeping.He called me saying "I'm dropping name off." So it's WHENEVER they need a sitter they just assume and I just feel like I always have to be on call? Should I tell them how I feel about it?Plus this is all for free and if I may add their child is also very disrespectful to adults.Opinions please.

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  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

    Police stop you at checkpoint to check if you’re chipped (aka vaccinated)

    Police check the car; let's say 4 people car but signal only from 3; so, police stop it to chip the notyetchipped; signal from 4 now and police let the car go. This is prophecy by saint Vyacheslav Krasheninnikov. Notice police chip (aka vaccinate) people at gun point in Africa; so, no more "it's not gonna happen here" 'cuz it will soon enough, capisce?

    Police do it on highways or when you leave your city... basically, you can't leave your city unless you're vaccinated; but vaccine = mark of the beast; so, escape now while your city doesn't have these rules; forgive me.

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    martial law; Constitution was suspended; New World Order

    read Book of Revelation; Chapters 13 and 14, please

    chipped people will be influenced by super computers to receive World Passport (grey plastic card with no name on it), but when they stretch their hands to get it, gov't clerk presses secret button to administer the unforgivable green 666 tattoo by isotope rays

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    Project Pogo = Alex Jones, QAnon, Adam Green, etc. videos are put out so that gov't tracks who watches them. (Project Zyphr annihilates people who watch these videos). Drone with scopolamine will drill a hole in your window at 4 am. Once gassed, you will come out to the police van (waiting for you outside) yourself; you will be taken to underground camp to be tortured for adrenochrome. The rest of the people will be secretly (or even openly) chipped when they sign up for food in closed stores

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  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

    You need to put your foot down and make it clear that you will not continue to babysit your grandchild unless your daughter and son start paying you for your time, just like they would have to do with any other childcare provider. You're absolutely right, they ARE taking advantage of you, and will continue to do so as long as you allow them to. So get busy and call a family meeting- and do it soon. There will be some protests at first, but part of being responsible adults is finding appropriate childcare when this is necessary. What they are doing is UNACCEPTABLE, and they need to be told this in no uncertain terms.

    As for the child's disrespectful attitude, he/she has obviously learned this at home, or at school. When the child is at your house all the time, YOU are the one who is responsible for his/her well being, and part of that includes discipline when this is necessary. If your daughter and son in law won't take responsibility for the child's discipline, then you need to step in when he/she is with you.

  • RoVale
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    They're taking advantage of you. They get free babysitting and can do whatever they want because they know you will be available to watch their child when they need it. Why would they want to change the situation since it works so well for them? You need to put your foot down and put a stop to it.

  • 2 weeks ago

    Yep they are clearly using you because it's free.

    This is a example of millenials that still want the freedoms they once enjoyed BEFORE kids and do all the things they did back then with zero responsibility.

    And they don't want to pay the $15 an hour that a cheap sitter would charge

  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

    You are 65 years old for pete's sake.

    Stop blaming your daughter and her husband.   You are a complete pansy who has refused to communicate or set any boundaries.   That was your choice.    It didn't have to be this way.

    If you want it to change, you need to open your mouth and tell them what you are willing and not willing to do.   And if you want to be paid, you need to tell them that too.

    Seriously?    How did you get to be 65 without knowing how to communicate with other adults about the most very basic of things?

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    Open your mouth and tell them you agreed to watch the child 4 times a week and they are going to have to go back to that schedule, and that if they need extra help, they'll need to hire someone else to do it. Are you a door mat, or what?  

    You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, including being on call to babysit the grandchild.  You've managed to enable them to dump the kid off with you anytime they please.  

    I'm a grandparent, and there is no way i'd allow myself to be put into the situation you're in.  I love my kids and grandkids, but i also have a life and things to do

  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

    You need to talk to your son, calmly and without judgment. It seems like he and his wife presume you're happy to do this whenever and for as long as they want, and that is not the case. If you don't speak up, how will they know?

    "Jared, when I started taking care of Name because of COVID, it was four hours a day, four days a week. That's sixteen hours week in, week out, that I was happy to donate, because you needed the help. But since then, the number of hours of my time you and wifey want keeps increasing. It's five days a week, not four, plus date nights, and you've just assumed I'm happy to have Name all day long when you move, without even asking me.

    "I'll do it, but starting from the day after the move, I am back to four hours a day, four days a week, no more, unless you ask ahead of time. You two need to find a sitter for date nights and any other time you need coverage, not assume I'm available and willing.

    "I love you and Name and wifey, of course, but I have my own life to live. Retirement needs to include time to do what I want to, not what you need done. I hope you'll respect that in the future."

    About Name's behavior, you're spending enough time with this child that you can and should help them learn to behave because it's expected and because other people's feelings matter, too. You can teach both courtesy and empathy.

    Make it clear what it acceptable and what the penalty will be if the desired behavior doesn't happen. No hitting, but withholding of privilege, of favorite snacks, of DVD or TV time, of playing with the dog, or trips to a playground are appropriate. Make sure to offer lavish praise when Name is respectful, has good manners, is considerate of others, etc.

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