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Friend with benefit ghosted me?

I was friends with benefits with a woman for about a year. I have not been lucky financially and had to lean on her financially as a result. 

I told her up front that I was struggling financially and could not afford to take her on dates or buy her anything. I offered some company and intimacy which she seemed okay with as she was going through a hard time emotionally (she had just separated from her cheating husband). We saw each other once or twice a month and would have light conversation most days.

I admit that i asked her for support a few times and she did help with bills, car rides, groceries and day to day costs. She also got me a job and ran errands for me. She was helpful tbf. But after a few months she started to complain and would occasionally bring up things she had done for me. She even once sent me a text detailing how much she had spent versus how much I had. She said that I had spent £4 and she had spent £4000. Rude! Clearly she was keeping score. She also used to cyber stalk me, my friends and ex on Instagram. 

She eventually ghosted me after I asked her to help me to buy a new computer. No conversation, no argument, no nothing. She changed her number and came off social media. So I had no way to contact her. I stopped trying after a week. After a few months she's back on social media and i have a feeling she would want embarrass me on there. I also think she is still looking at my profile. 

What should I do? 

No judgemental answers please!

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  • Mary
    Lv 5
    1 week ago

    How do you know shes back on social media unless youve been cyber stalking her.

    Just get a job and step up to the plate and you will have better luck and respect from women. Also, leave her alone unless she contacts you

  • 1 week ago

    Well, IMHO a friend with benefits isn't worth the risk of losing - by asking them for financial help.

    What should you do or what could you do?

    I'd look at it as a lesson learned and leave her alone and let her rekindle thing - if that is to happen. 

    Lol I'm on the opposite end of it - willing to help women and hoping for any kind of attention I can get... but all I get is crickets chirping.

    I think a FWB is someone worth going out of your way to keep around - but that's a retrospective so that would apply to later if it happens back. 

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