Mike S

I don't usually get a lot when I'm jerking off, but there's always at least some, especially if I stretch it out ('edge') for a while. When I'm with my fiancee, no matter how turned on I get, it's always "bone dry" (heh). Anyone know the difference?

(This doesn't interfere with our sex life, she gets plenty wet for both of us.)

Setup: Been dating this woman for a month now. She's a little older than I am (36 for her, 33 for me); it'd been a long dating dry spell for both of us. My two most recent serious relationships both wrecked because we only had physical attraction in common, so I really want to avoid that this time.

Problem: She's mentioned several times that she worries that I'm not that interested in her because I'm taking things slow physically - for instance, she wondered if I wasn't interested because I wasn't using "enough" tongue when kissing her.

I'm definitely interested in her, but not JUST for the physical relationship, so I'd rather take our time getting to the bedroom. I've told her this; she keeps worrying; which makes ME pay more attention to whether I'm doing things "just right" than to having fun. I'm concerned that this "performance anxiety" is going to cause problems when we do have sex, and that she'll interpret any "problems" as a lack of interest on my part.

How do I explain that I'm not pulling her into bed because she's more to me than just a pretty face?

My gf is working for the next year on the other side of the planet... literally... and we'd like to share an "activity". She got a Wii after she moved there. I've been thinking about getting one also (i.e., do NOT have one yet). Any tips for some good games that we can play together online? Hardcore violent fighting probably isn't going to cut it... not sure about anything super cutesy either. Puzzles & action are good. Important: We don't want to just fight against each other.