How do I avoid feeling rushed into sex instead of a deep relationship?

Tell her exactly what you wrote here. She needs to decide if she respects you more than she caters to her personal anxieties.

Here's what you do... you say, "Angela, you're smoking hot. Believe me, I think about taking you home and having amazing sex with you, because you're a beautiful, sexy woman. But the truth is that I've been hurt in the past, so it's become really important to me to take things slow. When we're ready I want our first time to be amazing, and that's why I don't want to just jump in the sack. I want it to mean something."

You probably feel like you've said all of that before, but you probably haven't said it quite that way before. The way I phrased it is a way most women will understand. The reality is that women who have had at least some experience with sex are pretty used to guys jumping at the first opportunity we give them, so when a guy holds back, we think the problem is us even when it's not. The gut reaction is to think we're not desirable enough to this current guy, since guys in the past were ready to get busy at the drop of a hat. If you reassure your gf that she IS sexy and you DO want her, but that you want to wait for reasons that will benefit BOTH of you, she's more likely to understand and even agree.

Tell her just that. That she's more than a pretty face to you and that you care about the relationship enough to want to go slow and build a solid foundation. Heck, most of the men I've gone out with try and take off my pants on the first date, I'd find somebody that wanted to go slow refreshing.

girls are never going to believe a guy who says hes waiting. its just to surreal for us.

i know you want to take things slowly, but maybe stir thing sup a little, you can still have a physical relationship without only being physically attracted to someone. make this sex less about SEX and more about being close with her, this is the most intimate you can be with a woman, you and her will be hightened emotionally together. your linked. think of it that way

Talk to her about it. It's the best solution. Tell her about how your past girlfriends blew up because they were only physical, she'd most likely understand.

You can start by telling her you love her, and that your not after her looks but you want it real. Then tell her about how your past was like and what you want about your relationship.

Talking is the best remedy for your situation. Good luck.

in those exact words.

we love it when you tell us the truth and get your feelings out there.

sure every decent women (not slag) insecure and this is why she will be concerned,

sharing her concerns is a gd thing and just tell her you want this to work and just

spend your time doing other things instead.

(if al else fails and as long as you truely MEAN it whisper very softly in her ear when its quiet

i love you)

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sit on the couch with her and say to her look babe i i dotn pull u into bed because i feel like we are rushign into it to fast she should understand if she dont then she aint for u

Tell her you're gay.