Any marriage counsellors out there?

First of all when talking about compatibility no one is compatible. You will always find reasons why it won't work out if you look for them. I would urge the both of you to talk with your local pastor. In all actuality they are the best marriage counselors.

It doesn't matter that one is an introvert and the other an extrovert. What matters is that at one time you both fell in love and were in love enough to decide to spend the rest of your lives together, not to mention create a beautiful child together.

Trust Jesus and let God heal your wounds. If you haven't already ask God for help. But remember without God there is no love and you have the world against you. He's not there for just whenever you need him. He's a part of the marriage as much as the two you. God Bless and good luck.

Take a break from her. Work on yourself. Focus on the kid. The kid needs you. Be honest with the kid. At 3 1/2 they can understand that you feel bummed out. He knows what it's like when he can't get what he wants. Explain it to him. Then take him for a long walk and hold his hand and stroll along and walk and talk. 3 1/2 year olds can be a great buddy for a guy going through this crap. Just get outside with him and go biking, hiking, walking, roller blading... whatever. No matter how cold it is outside, get outside.

Then look at the sky and the clouds and the trees and stuff. Think about the fact that what's goind on with you and the wife isn't that big. There's a whole world out there. Take a break from her. If she's still got a place for you in her heart, take a break and let her realize that. Don't call her. Back off.

Take a class or something. Learn something new. Read a new book. Learn a new language. Do something to improve yourself. If you're the introvert then get out and meet people. Join a playgroup with your kid. Take your little boy to a concert of some kind. Not a rock concert but one for kids or classical music or the Nutcracker or something. Take him to see a play. Take him to dinner. Just hang out and be guys together. He will bring you great solace if you let him just be your buddy. Kids love daddy time. They love it. It's a time you'll cherish forever if you'll just do it.

Get on Yahoo Answers and ask for a long list of ideas of things to do with a 3 1/2 year old boy. Stay away from fancy Disney Land type crap. Do things that focus on your being together. Preferably things that don't cost anything or cost very little.

That little boy is job one, buddy. Put your focus there and it will pay off for you and for him. If the wife comes back fine... if not, a lot of women would really dig a guy who has a nice little boy and who has a close relationship to him. Women dig that stuff.

No matter what you won't lose. Get on with the business of life and trust that things will all work out.

Good luck.

Take one day at a time. Concentrate on your son, he is priority right now. Make new happy times with him to help with your sorrow. It is okay to cry and feel sad when you have lost something you love. But you need to count your blessings which is your son. Be good to yourself as well.

One day at a time-contact your county's mental health department they can assist you with getting some grief therapy at a low cost-good luck

Everyone on here claims to be, dude.

Love your son. Nothing else is that important.

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