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Guys please answer!!! How do you turn a guy down and stay friends?

I've become really, really good friends with a guy I met through a friend a few months ago. I don't think I've made him think I'm interested, I've mostly seen him together with the rest of the gang but also on our own a few times.

He's recently been acting pretty strange and asked me out for dinner just me and him... My "best friend" says I need to tell him that I'm not interested but she won't tell him for me because it's not fair apparently but she also says I should just tell him straight so I don't lead him on... I think that would be really cruel...

I wouldn't be asking if he wasn't such a great guy and friend, I don't want things to be awkward between us and I don't want us to drift apart?

Please help!! I've never really been such good friends with a guy before???!!!!

Thanks

Mx

Update:

OK thanks but should I mention that I'm sorry if it led him on? I'm so crap at this sort of thing! I'm scared that I will waffle on and on and on!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    You should let him know that your not interested don't be to flirty and don't go just you and him out because he will think that you like him in more then a friends way say to him look i just want to be friends i am so sorry but i don't like you in that sort of way i just want to be friends just let him down easy and do it your self do not have any of his friends or your friends around because we don't want anybody laughing and little giggles coming from no where that would be horrible take my advise i am sure it will work.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    howdy i like equipment of a Down too, lol!!! ok, so i'm a woman yet i do no longer think of the form you're is a turn off. you're who you're and you desire to detect a guy who will love you for who you extremely are - settle for you with each and all the reliable and undesirable approximately you. sure, relationships require compromise (wholesome compromise, it truly is) and so on yet it truly is a few thing which may be worked on throughout a courting. Smoking, tattoos, and so on...it truly is not significant. the style of guy it truly is into that stuff himself or open approximately stuff WILL such as you. do no longer comprehend why you do in contrast to being touched? i think of maximum adult adult males could want a woman that likes being touched...however the question right this is however in case you are able to desire to be touched by a guy you're in love with? It does not easily count in case you do in contrast to being touched by human beings over right here till you react to adult adult males an identical way you react to them. no longer all adult adult males like domineering women human beings because of the fact it truly is their function to be the "service" yet once you're saying your are "aggressive", "comprehend what you like", and so on, that doesn't unavoidably advise that it truly is a few thing no guy can stand. Who desires that form of affection besides? that would desire to indicate the guy is in love with this facade and not the real you. you are able to wanna tone it down/tweak it yet truly, it can be a reliable ingredient in case you detect a guy who can handle those aspects of you in a wholesome way. Any courting by definition is a potential conflict. besides, it might desire to be that for the reason which you have been criticized you think of your attributes are worse than they are easily.... I say be you. stay existence and study out of your reviews. shop an open recommendations yet additionally do no longer lose your self. :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    sounds like hes got the idea you have already led him on. best stop it before it starts. just say hes not your type.

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