YOU can make a difference in my love life if you help me out!?

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OK, so there's this guy thats my roommates best friend that i like. I don't know him very well but we always randomly ran into each other and he has asked me to hang out before and i've gone to his parties but I'm not sure if hes just being nice and wants to be friends orr if he's maybe pursuing more. My roommate says hes super secretive about girls, like she cant even tell when he likes a girl. Hes really attractive and hes a good catch but hes only had a few girlfriends. It seems like girls have hurt him a lot in the past so hes really apprehensive about girls. But anyway, we flirt a lot at parties and hes stayed the night before just cuddling... I asked him to come over the other night to help me set up my bed frame, just got a new one,  but he was busy. So since i asked him to hang out last, should i wait for him to call me? or just wait until he hangs out with my roommate so we'll all hang out.

I'm awful with guys and i really need someones advice, please help me.

Bella · Answer

Its best to let them pursue you, that way you can tell if they are interested or not. But communication is really the best way although people stray from it because of fear of rejection or humiliation.

You asked him, now its his turn. keep it going, take turns. If he isn't responding or is always bailing on plans then he is just not that into you.

and since you said he may have been hurt many times he may want to move really slow so he can learn to trust again. real love takes time.

good luck! : )

Jer S · Answer

Ask him to go somewhere other than your house or his house, perhaps ask him to go to dinner or a movie sometime. Get him to actually devote time to you instead of just "hanging out" or relaxing at a party.

? · Answer

stop wasting time. just be direct with him and ask him out. the worst that will happen is that you just remain friends.

YOU can make a difference in my love life if you help me out!?

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