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I broke up with him over a week ago and since then I haven't physically felt like myself. I haven't eaten a meal or slept well. I've tried eating and couldn't keep it down. The only thing I can keep down are smoothies, coffee, and water. Every time I even think of him, I become extremely nauseous and my throat closes up & becomes dry. Sometimes I can't breathe. I literally feel a stab through my chest. All of this is only when I think about him or I'm reminded of him.

I don't understand why. I don't love him. We broke up because it was the logical thing to do. I understand my mistakes and learned from the experience and also realize that this will happen again. Heart breaks are apart of life. I miss him so much but I know that I can't do anything to fix what happened. Neither of us can. It wasn't meant to be.

Its strange because at times, all of these symptoms come back and I get this overwhelming pain; its almost like I feel what he feels. Is that even possible? Or over-dramatic...

...so why is my body reacting this way still? I'm trying my hardest to move on and its hard when I constantly feel like this. My body has never reacted this way over anything. Not even death.

I broke up with him when he needed me the most because I didn't understand some details that were going on. I realize now that I made a BIG mistake and I don't want to lose him. We broke up Sunday night. I tried talking to him the night after and things didn't go well. He told me that he isn't sure if we're going to be together in the future and he needs to think everything over. He told me to leave him alone.

But while he's thinking things over, he isn't taking into consideration what I want to say to him. That I was wrong and I want to be there for him in any way I can be. I really want to talk to him but I want to respect his space. I also want to know how he is feeling.

When has enough time passed for him to think things through? Or when is it appropriate to try and meet up with him? I understand that I should wait for him to come to me but what if he never does and what if its because I didn't try hard enough to work things out? I'll never know unless I try and I want to do this right because there's only one shot.

1 week? Tomorrow?

Asking for closure:

"I just don't feel like dating right now. you didn't do anything wrong, plain and simple."

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in response about us getting back together:

"I don't know, I need to think about everything."

He doesn't like me? Or is he not sure...can I do anything to win him back? Or will that make everything worse.

We have been dating since June and everything was great up to a month ago. We're both younger, in our early twenties, and have no desire to think about our future. I really enjoy spending time together and I thought that I could love him some day...almost like my "future love". I've never felt this way about a guy before and I'm not ready to call it quits. What we had was too rare to throw away. I want to fix this but I don't know if there's any hope...

We broke up Sunday night, I mostly did the talking and broke it off with him. In my head, I had things so very wrong. He's a busy guy, he works full time and goes to school full time plus just moved; its a lot to take in. He has been distant for the past few weeks and I noticed he just didn't seem happy. I thought it was because of me. And I thought he was stringing me along because he was too scared to break up with me. So I did what I thought was right for the both of us. Our break up didn't end well at all, it was obvious we were both very hurt.

I've had a few days to really think about things and I'm just starting to realize that I've been so selfish and blind this whole time. I kept going through our break up in my head and I finally realized that he had been trying to tell me that he's going through a rough patch and he also told me that he knows he hasn't been treating me right but he can't fix it right away. I should have seen that as soon as things calmed down in our lives, we would be a stronger couple and a closer one for getting over the hurtle. I feel like an idiot because I ignored what he said and already had my mind up of what I thought was going on. I didn't want to hear anything else. I'm not sure what's going through his head at all, but I know that if he's happier alone, then I'll leave him be.

So that's what I told him. I know- most girls would never say that. But I texted him twice before that and I didn't want to push him away by not knowing what he wanted. Of course I want to hear what he wants and what is best for the both of us but to be honest, I think I hurt him so bad that he won't give me the time of day. I think he's too scared to be open to the idea again because of what happened. I wish I could show him how deeply I care for him and that I made a huge mistake by doing what I did... But after I asked him if he wanted me to stop trying to talk to him, he told me to leave him be. I asked why and he said that he "doesn't feel like dating right now." and that I didn't do anything wrong, plain and simple. He told me that he doesn't know if we're going to get back together and that he is trying to think about everything.

Is this his way of telling me its over?

I can't help but still have hope that he wants to get back together but he's a shy guy. I'm giving him time to think about everything but this whole process is grueling. Should I give up? Is there anything more I can do? He doesn't even know about everything I said above this, I want to tell him but I'm afraid of disrespecting his request.

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I don't know what to do. I've been seeing my boyfriend for a few months now and he's a really shy guy. We have this crazy connection when he opens up but its always so difficult to get to that point. He's always very busy with work and school- 40 hours/week for work and 10/week for school. But in his free time I feel like he would rather do anything than hang out with me. I adore him- I think he's one of the greatest guy's I've ever met but I feel like he doesn't even want me. I feel like I'm always pushing him to hang out with me and he never wants to hang out alone; when we do we watch TV...and we actually watch TV. It doesn't help that we both live with our parents either. I've tried talking to him about it once and he just completely shut down. He got really upset and told me that I'm right, but that's not what I wanted. I don't want him to try to force himself to be with me if he isn't happy. I just can't figure it out. I have a few guy friends that have been a really good friend to me for as long as I can remember, and I've never had this problem with any of them. Sometimes I don't understand why he doesn't break up with me...what's the point in being together if you can't share moments or conversations that are meaningful? I don't talk about it with my friends that much but the ones who have witnessed how he's acted towards me don't think that we should be together. I care about him so much and I want to do anything I can to make it work... yeah we're in our early 20's and it shouldn't be serious- I'm not looking for serious. Is it me? Am I pushing him away? Or is he just too scared to break up with me?

What do I do. please, I need some honest advice. I just don't know what to do anymore and I want to fix it. He tells me that I've been the "perfect girlfriend" but I don't believe his BS. What's really going on???

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...am i just supposed to wait for him until he's ready to risk ******* things up?

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...am i just supposed to wait for him until he's ready to risk ******* things up?

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