Abusive Dad and what to do?

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Well I'm 16, my mom's a registered nurse and my dad is lazy dumb good for nothing immigrant who still can't speak proper english after 20 years. I yell at my dad a lot out of frustration from his poor english which affects mine, yes I understand that he's my father and all but I'm pretty sure the father is supposed to provide for the family not the other way around. My mom is a hard working CITIZEN, whereas my dad is lazy dumbshit who thinks driving me 4 miles to school is a lot of work. He doesn't provide for the family, I mean he cooks and cleans, but I could do that myself with my sister. I did that when he went on vacation to the Phillipines-his home land. We were perfectly fine and happy without him. Now that I'm done with my diatribe, just recently he threatened to cut my throat and all that good stuff. I'm perfectly fine with that because I'll beat him up if he even tries- it used to scare the **** out of me when I was a kid, but after working out and getting strong it's the least of my worries. Nonetheless he's still threatens with abuse and he does have abuse on his police record when he beat my older sister 8 years ago. So I was wondering if I can just my counselor and have my dad deported back to the Philippines. He has a permanent green card and I just don't want to go into foster care, because I would be perfectly fine with just my mom.

ppsutt · Answer

You don't have the power of deportation. If he threatens you, call the police and file a report. It would help your case a lot that when the police arrived, you omitted comments like "lazy, dumb, good for nothing immigrant" and "lazy dumb ****". It's quite possible your mother is fine with the arrangement of her working and he being a stay at home husband. You can't become a registered nurse with a single digit I.Q. You're very angry. You should discuss THAT with your counselor. What makes you think you're headed to foster care if you file a complaint? To me, that indicates you're leaving out a lot of facts. Good luck to you honey.

? · Answer

from what i just read you have a big problem there.look if you can't get along with your dad the best thing is tell some one that can help you on this.now if you go to school then tell some one there.they know how to handle this problem for you.now once this is going you have to show how he dose to you.and at the same time you have to ask for some were to go because you are afraid of him and you don't trust him.and you have to the same for your sister ok. you can't leave her behind ok.now when the time comes they will have you to talk to a person who have some thing to do with child service and you tell them what this man is doing.like he try to cut your throat and other thing's and make sure that you tell them that you tryed to tell your mom but she did not believe you.and that you are afraid for your life and your sister.now that's the best advice i can give you.your friend Fred

Anonymous · Answer

you wont go into foster care when your mum and other family members around report before these threats become real

Abusive Dad and what to do?

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