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Can anyone relate here, loving the wrong person?
I'm in a situation where I find the phrases "I hate you because I love you" and "you don't have to like someone to love them" very appropriate. Expanding on the first, I hate both of us for me loving him. It's been almost a year since the break up and nothing has changed. I still love him, but not in the way you choose. I hate him for what he thinks he can do to me and other women. I hate myself for loving him, and if I could stop, I'd jump at the opportunity. I'd just love if people could answer saying they relate, and if they want to give advice, it would be much appreciated at this point in time. Thanks :)
3 Answers
- 8 years ago
I've felt that way before. I'm not sure if It's the same for you, but for me, the reason why I couldn't let it go and stop loving him was because he made me feel like nobody else was gonna love me the way he does, and that I wouldn't make it with anyone like I did with him. I soon realized that it wasn't true. You have to allow yourself to see the world and see what and who is out there. That was the greatest thing ever. I loved this guy so much, but I couldn't do it. Don't let yourself get to the point of hitting rock bottom. Tell yourself that you are strong and you don't need him. You deserve somebody who'll make you happy and who you don't love and hate, but just truly love.
- Anonymous8 years ago
it will get easier when you allow yourself to fall in love again.
