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? asked in Business & FinancePersonal Finance · 5 years ago

Just moved in with my partner- financial advice?

I've moved into my boyfriend's house, which he has a mortgage on. He has a good job and is paying the bills- I'm unemployed and buy the food. I contribute as much as I can but I'm very grateful that he takes care of me- I am starting a job soon but this is how it is at the moment.

Having had a grasping harpy of a girlfriend before, he understandably wants to protect himself if we split up. So-

Considering that we're not married, would I have to right to claim anything from him?

And if so, are there any legal measures I can take to reassure him that I wouldn't try to get money from him if we parted ways?

I know it's an odd query but he's worried about this, and since I have absolutely no interest in his assets it seems sensible to pin this all down now.

Update:

I'm the UK by the way. I'm very careful not to get pregnant, so kids aren't an issue.

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    If he were here asking for advice about how to financially protect himself, I'd tell him to use a condom each and every time NO MATTER WHAT.

    Unless you have kids or get married, you have no claim to his income or assets, but I'd tell him to consult an attorney to make sure that's true.

    ETA: "I'm very careful not to get pregnant, so kids aren't an issue." You're missing the point. If he doesn't trust you and wants to protect his income/assets, why would he trust that you wouldn't have a child? Either he trusts you or he doesn't. You wouldn't be the first woman to have an "accidental" pregnancy and you wouldn't be the last either. You being financially dependent on him puts him at larger risk. One whiff of him wanting to leave the relationship and BAM you're knocked up. Now...I'm not saying you would do that...but wearing a condom is certainly a wise insurance policy. If he doesn't agree, then I guess he's not too worried about protecting his money.

  • 5 years ago

    As soon as you get a job, you should pay him rent. State laws vary. Generally, you would be entitled to nothing except for 30 days' notice to move out, provided you are paying rent. If you are not paying rent, he does not have to give you any notice. He an kick you out now if he wants to. If you both want all the nitty gritty on every little thing, both of you should consult with a lawyer together. A one hour consultation should do it. However, a contract that includes expectations of the other would not be a bad idea. You should pay for half.

    Source(s): Certified Paralegal, with 25+ years' experience.
  • ?
    Lv 7
    5 years ago

    After six months, you're common-law - it's like being legally married. You'd go to a lawyer and sign an agreement similar to a prenup.

    But really, if the relationship is based on this, it's really based on his last girlfriend. Should have waited till he was over it. And now, it's an issue for both of you.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Income and bills are the first maojor priority, followed by food. He is paying the mortgage himself, and is paying the bills, BUT, when you start work, he will expect you to contribute towards the upkeep.

    Too soon to consider what (if any) rights you might have if you split. Problem is circumstances change, like you could become a Mom, and naturally you will want support from him if you split.

    The sadest way for him is to seek legal advice, as conditions vary from Country to Country.

  • 5 years ago

    He needs to get over it and trust you.

    If you want actual legal advice then you need to speak to someone in your area since the answer will vary

  • ?
    Lv 7
    5 years ago

    No there isn't any claim on his money. You can always have him draw up a pre-nup

  • 5 years ago

    Time will heal. At some point he will simply realize that you're here for HIM, and not his cash.

  • 5 years ago

    If you two get married.....you can NOT claim any of the house, or anything else, because he bought the house BEFORE you met him.

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