Do we need to prepare for the worst if your husband/wife has the plan to divorce you?

It's easier to plan for the worst so you don't get disappointed if you have high hopes. Hopefully you have no children and ruin their lives because that's what you'll do. Put the children first !!

Is there already a plan that you are aware of? If so, then once you accept the fact that it's over. You will have to try hard to work with your spouse to negotiate almost everything without lawyers!

Most lawyers from the same county work together, play golf together, go to lunch together and are friends. They do NOT try to get you to settle things with each other, they do the opposite. The more you two disagree, the more money they get. They will tell you they want to help you and you'll fall for it. But really they will go in a side room at the courthouse and decide together how much money they can actually make out of this deal. That's what decides how long everything will take. Not if the two of you agree or not!

Yes you need to be an independent woman. You need to be able to take care of yourself and your children. You should have job skills and your own money. You should be able to put gas and oil in your car, change a tire and do minor household repair. No one likes to think that they will be divorced and a single mother but it could happen to all of us. One of the reasons that I am a working mother is because I watched this happen to friends and family when I was a kid in the 70's. Back them most women did not work. Some did not even pay bills and could not balance a checkbook. All they knew were children, housework and kitchens. Their husbands left for other women and left them alone, broke and desperate. They had hungry kids and no job skills or money. I decided then that I would never be in their shoes. Always be prepared for the worst.

I would say, "celebrate your new found freedom." Whenever something apparently bad happens in your life, it is for your own good, even if it doesn't appear to be that way at the moment. Out of every problem, comes an ultimate good, even though we are not always wise enough to see it because we are involved in it.

I say, take the cup half full rather than the cup half empty approach. And have faith, there is a higher power, who has your best interest at heart vested.

Sometimes the worst situations in the world, yield startling results for your benefit and those of others.

YES,prepare for the worst.in my case i never thought that my soon to be X would have such a personality change.i thought that we would be able to talk things ($$$) over in a civil manner,boy was i wrong.strange how you thought that you know someone (over 16 years) and how they change their attitude when it comes to money matters.in my case i don't even know who this person is.we separated on civil terms,now it seems that most of the time that she is out for financial blood!

when she is being nice i have learned to be cautious and say little and take notes of conversations that we have.people can do a complete 180,the person that you knew may not turn out to be the person that you thought you knew.cover ALL bases,it is better to plan for the worst and hope for the best.

If you're certain there is a plan, then you'll need a:

-lawyer

-mediator (if you can settle it out of court)

-a financial planner/adviser because your lawyer may end up fighting for you to get that house or something, but not realize how much you'll end up having to pay in taxes and stuff.

Try researching it, like on jeanchatzky.com. She's a Today Show financial expert and contributor. I think she talked about it once before.

If your spouse is planning on divorcing you I would try to prepare yourself financially. Do what you can to protect yourself but I would suggest talking to your spouse, you may be able to work things out. Either way make you that you can take care of yourself should you suddenly find yourself divorced.

Absolutely! Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. Good luck! ; D

Not necessarily. When I left my ex I left 1/2 of everything. I just wanted to get away from his abuse and I didn't want him seeking me out. He did anyway. I had to call the cops to keep him away from me. If they have a plan to divorce you, you may not know it until you come home to an empty house.

just because you may be getting divorced doesn't mean the person divorcing you is no longer the same person you fell in love with (and obviously decided to marry). be cautious but don't be a fool!